Most people, at some point in their lives, feel like their reality is not matching up to the picture in their head of what life is “supposed” to look like. Some people navigate that feeling with grace and compassion for themselves, and the negative feeling passes. Others, for many reasons, cope in a different way. They may get depressed, feel intense anxiety, numb the feeling with food, drugs or alcohol, or disconnect from others.
Human needs psychology tells us that humans have six basic needs: Certainty, Variety, Significance, Love/Connection, Growth and Contribution. We all meet these needs for ourselves in one way or another, but these ways can be either empowering or destructive. If you are struggling, you are likely meeting your needs in ways that go against your true nature and make you unhappy.
When we work together, we will explore the ways you are meeting your needs and we’ll dig deep to understand what pieces of your life are contributing to the problem. We’ll look at your beliefs, your thought patterns, and your relationships to find the root causes of the problem, as well as potential resources for recovery. We will talk about how you are currently coping with your situation, what areas of your life are being affected, what relationships are being affected, and what resources are lacking. We will always add to your life before trying to take anything away, and the changes you make will never feel like a loss – they will feel like victory.
In life, everything has an opposite. Life is about seasons. The dormancy of winter and the rebirth of spring. Lows and highs. Ugliness and beauty. Pain and joy. Without the difficult or painful times, we wouldn't know joy or beauty. With that in mind, we’ll work together bring peace and learning to your winters, knowing they have meaning and will pass...and see the absolute awe and joy in your springs.