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Marriage: conflict | intimacy | trust/Affairs | Premarital

How I can help

We all have heard the phrase “Marriage is hard work.” Does it take work? Yes. But that work doesn’t have to be “hard.” It can be the most fulfilling work that you do in your life. Many people see differences as a problem – I don’t. If you and your partner thought and acted the same way, there would be no passion or growth. Relationships force us to grow, give, understand, give, contribute, give, tolerate, give, evaluate, give, learn, give, and grow some more. Notice that GIVING is an essential component.

Human needs psychology tells us that we all have six basic human needs: Certainty, Variety, Significance, Love/Connection, Growth and Contribution. The strongest, most intimate relationships are those in which both partners are meeting the others’ needs. In struggling marriages, even the most committed couples can unwittingly neglect their partners in ways that damage the relationship and creates distrust.

In our work together, we will explore what needs are being met in the relationship, and which aren’t – on both sides. We won’t assign fault, but instead we will work to find heartfelt understanding and redevelop trust and intimacy. With compassion and commitment, even the most damaged relationships can be repaired.

I can attest to this personally. My husband and I went through a very difficult time, didn’t know how to repair the marriage, and ultimately got divorced. We were miserable without each other, and finally committed to doing the work on our relationship. What we discovered was that the love was always there, we just didn’t know how to fulfill each other’s needs. Through relationship coaching, we found a level of love and trust and happiness that we hadn’t even dreamed of – and are now happily remarried! ​Find out more at www.steponemarriage.com.